In this way, the good-inside method isn’t about honoring feelings and giving children whatever they want; it’s about honoring feelings and holding boundaries. When it comes to parenting, self-development and child development go hand in hand. In many ways, how we approach parenting reveals so much about the way we ourselves handle emotions and conflict. Each tough moment is an opportunity to practice our own reflection and healthy coping skills as we guide our children. Final thoughts Book Summary: Born to Win by Zig Ziglar with Tom Ziglar In “Born to Win,” Zig Ziglar and his son Tom Ziglar share their wisdom and insights on how to live a successful and fulfilling life. The book is divided into… Many parents are worried about behaviors that are completely normal. Shyness, frustration intolerance, food challenges, tears, and perfectionism are all behaviors that occur out of a child’s normal need to find control over their environment. Resilience isn’t about getting the outcome you want. Remember, your job is to hold boundaries, not control your child’s feelings. Sometimes you just have to sit through the tantrum, and that’s okay.

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Here’s a sample script to bring all of these elements together: “I was having big feelings that came out in a yelling voice. Those were my feelings and it’s my job to work on managing them better. It’s never your fault when I yell. I love you.” “Parenting doesn’t have to be defined by moments of struggle.” The rationale behind this is pseudoscientific babble. Kids cannot regulate their emotions well (fact). Therefore, you need to help them (okay). And if you don’t do it the right way, the kid will grow up emotionally unhealthy and be unable to have functional adult relationships (whaaaat…?!). In part three, Kennedy offers strategies for navigating common parenting challenges, such as tantrums, defiance, and sibling rivalry. Kennedy emphasizes the importance of consistency, communication, and setting clear boundaries. She also offers strategies for managing difficult emotions, such as anger and guilt. Kennedy stresses the importance of seeking support from friends, family, and professionals when needed. ConclusionImagine your child is twenty-five years old. Do you want your child to be able to say, ‘No, that’s not okay with me,’ when someone asks her an inappropriate question? Do you want her to be able to ask for a raise? To be able to tell her partner, ‘I need you to talk to me more respectfully’? If we want our kids to be able to recognize their wants and needs as adults, then we need to start seeing tantrums as an essential part of their development.” Parenting is self-development

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I’ve never had an adult come to my private practice and say, “Well, my parents were just such great parents that well… They got rid of all the hard feelings. I only feel happy!” But I have had hundreds of adults show up with essentially no coping skills for hard feelings. They are no better off at age 35 than when they were in early childhood regarding their ability to regulate frustration, jealousy, disappointment, sadness, and not-good-enough feelings. But as stated before, if you’re past the early years wondering if it’s too late, it’s not. The brain has neuroplasticity – which is the ability to rewire based on new information. If you have past situations you aren’t proud of, you and your child can rewrite the ending through a process called repair. Children should be treated with respect and not as adversaries. Their behaviors should get the most generous interpretation and least aggressive correction. Gentle Parenting is the azimuth of helicopter parenting. Helicopter parents micromanage what their kids eat, how they study, who they hang out with, and what they do in their spare time. The goal is to optimize the outcome for your child. But GP takes it one step further and says the parent can also optimize the emotional landscape of the child.

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Children are wired to notice changes in their environment ( Why do my parents look sad? Why is everyone saying the word funeral?), and kids are wired to perceive changes as a threat until an adult helps determine that they are safe. Blame it on evolution: for our species to survive, a child had to assume a rumbling in the forest was a bear until an adult confirmed it as a squirrel. The child registers fear until an adult is present to explain. Even if a parent confirms “the worst,” a child will feel safer knowing that they are not alone because an adult is with them in their scary reality. A supportive, honest, caring presence feels safe to children and makes difficult truths manageable. Book Summary: Sleep Smarter by Shawn Stevenson Sleep Smarter by Shawn Stevenson is a comprehensive guide to improving your sleep quality and overall health. The book is divided into 20 chapters, each focusing on a different aspect… As we mentioned before, connection is the cure to shame. In the next section, we’ll talk about how to build connection capital with your kids. Connection is Key

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In each of these examples, parents are asking their kids to inhibit an urge or desire that, frankly, they are developmentally incapable of inhibiting.” Galu galā laimes veidošana ir atkarīga no spējām regulēt savas ciešanas. Mums ir jājūtas droši, lai mēs varētu justies laimīgi. Robežas nenozīmē pateikt bērniem, ko viņi nedrīkst darīt; robežas nozīmē pateikt bērniem, ko mēs darīsim. If your child has no intrinsic motivation to complete something, you can either bully them (authoritarian parenting), or you can provide extrinsic motivation (authoritative parenting), or you let them skip it (permissive parenting).I read this book last month and felt like I had way too many thoughts to squeeze into a blurb for my Friday morning newsletter (sign up here if you’re not already!). I decided to put together a blog post reviewing the book. I’m also going to share some of the biggest things I learned from it. Proverbs 17:25 "A foolish son brings grief to his father and bitterness to the mother who bore him." But maybe parenting shouldn’t revolve around traditional discipline methods and charts. And this summary is here to prove it.

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Trying to see what the deal is with this very popular thing. I was curious about the book because when I'd heard Kennedy in an interview and in a bit of her podcast, I've found her suggested language to be passive-aggressive, guilt-trippy, and just phenomenally wordy. I actually thought the book was a lot better in this regard.Spending one-on-one time with your child on a regular basis can prevent much of that negative behavior. Developing a close, considerate, caring relationship with your child based on mutual respect is probably the primary indicator of whether you will have a successful outcome. When we focus on what’s under the surface, when we give children what they need to be less combustible inside, their behavior will appear less explosive on the outside. By understanding what motivates behavior, we can help kids build resilience and regulate emotions, which will inevitably lead to behavioral changes.” Most generous interpretation Jo dziļāku saikni mēs jūtam ar kādu, jo gatavāki esam izpildīt šī cilvēka prasības. Būtībā klausīšana ir kā attiecību stipruma barometrs. Tāpēc, kad bērni mūs neklausa, ir ļoti svarīgi šīs grūtības uztvert nevis kā problēmu ar bērnu, bet gan kā jūsu savstarpējo attiecību sarežģījumu. Ja bērns jūs ignorē vai reti klausa jūsu lūgumiem, viņš bez vārdiem cenšas pateikt, ka jūsu attiecībām ir nepieciešamas papildu rūpes un mīlestība.