really really enjoyed this one. i realized i have read basically zero books about feminism???? fail! The author also presents the possibility of charity being creative by suggesting exploration of other relationships that delineate from the traditional intimacy between a man and woman. Lesbianism, Hook claims, is a possible way to obtain healthy love and, hence, find one’s actual being. Circles of love, which are intimate relationships that allow for sexual intercourse between more than one partner, may also be favorable to women in the progressive era. Ich bin recht unvoreingenommen an dieses Buch gegangen, da es für mich das erste Buch von bell hooks war.

A masterful job . . . Communion is a thinking women’s (and man’s) valentine—more nourishing than candy, more enduring than the floweriest language Hallmark has to offer—and a fitting conclusion to hooks’ groundbreaking work on love in American life.”—Los Angeles Times I don't know a whole lot about feminist theory, but what I learned about it here I found fascinating. hooks' treatise on love is passionate and positive, and goes a long way to build up strength and determination in readers. bell hooks'un okuduğum ikinci kitabı. ilki "feminizm herkes içindir" idi. ilkinde gözlemlediğim meseleyi basit anlatma tavrı bunda da geçerli.kitabın kendisine gelirsek, ben sevgi arayışı, sevginin ne olduğu/olmadığı, neden inatla bu kadar önemli olduğu konusunda bu kadar düşünmemiştim. tabi ki annelerimizin bizi çoğunlukla sevgileriyle istismar ettiği, babalarımızın da bizi sevmeyerek istismar ettiği bir gerçektir, bunun farkındaydım. ama kitapta kendisinin de bahsettiği " güçlü görünmek adına çok seviyor görünmemek" "sevgisiz de yaşanır diyen" kadın profilinin bu kadar sık göründüğünü, çoğunluğumuz için bunun mesele olduğundan haberdar değildim ( bir uzaylı kendim sanıyordum). kadınların birbirini sevmesinin, özellikle tehdit olarak görmeden sevmesinin ne kadar önemli olduğunu, kadınların özellikle birbirine sahip çıkmasının kıymetli olduğunu düşünürüm ben de. o sebepten kitap bitince sanki bir kız kardeşime sarılmışım gibi oldu. kadınların okumasını, üzerine düşünmesini tavsiye ederim.

It takes courage for women to challenge the seduction of domination, the making of Love synonymous with erotic conflict between the powerful and the powerless." When I rebelled against my parents. . .I did not do so happily. I wanted and needed their support. Going against their wishes was frightening and psychologically upsetting" (p. 148) Finally, she raises this idea that feminists aren't truly ready for "the new men": We demand that men change, and when they do, we are often not ready to affirm and embrace the liberation we claimed to desire. Published in 2002, "Communion: The Female Search for Love," by bell hooks/Gloria Watkins, is an excellent nonfiction title by this prolific and deeply insightful author. There was a lot less I disagreed with in this book, and I could see she made more of an attempt to be LGBTQ+ inclusive (although weak and insufficient).

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awareness of problems alone is not a solution. To solve the problem of _______________, we have to critique sexist thinking, militantly oppose it, and simultaneously create new images, new ways of seeing ourselves" (p. 114, yeah good reminder)

When truth teller and careful writer bell hooks offers a book, I like to be standing at the bookshop when it opens.” –Maya Angelou Years later, when I was ready to leave this relationship, I planned my exit much as one might plan leaving a job" (p. 62) (a lot of work and love themes linked together in this book) They, of course, are women, and the girls who will one day become women. Girls and women who are all, truly, whores. Whores who must be policed by the violence that men dish out to them, to keep them in line. When truth teller and careful writer bell hooks offers a book, I like to be standing at the bookshop when it opens." -Maya Angelou The vast majority of us have flesh on our bones. I wish I could report that we all love that flesh. Some of us do. Most of us do not. A great many of us simply give up, engaging in a process of negative acceptance. By that I mean that an individual woman may not like her looks, her weight, but ceases trying to change herself so that she no longer confroms to conventional sexist aesthetic standards, because to do so lessens her anxiety and stress. But she is still not self-loving. We cannot negate our bodies and love them. Ouch. If this isn't me to a T.Intimate, revealing, provocative, Communion challenges every female to courageously claim the search for love as the heroic journey she must choose to be truly free. Silencing our fears about becoming women who love too much, Communion answers all of our questions about the place of love in a woman’s life. she did bash on patriarchal men a lot (love) but she never blamed men or suggested that women were the victim. she empowered women to take accountability and to put in the work to find and create meaningful, mutual love. i love how she wrapped the book up by talking about the importance of all love - self love, romantic friendships, and romantic love and how we need all of them to live a fulfilled life, and that giving and receiving love from yourself and close friends is what enriches romantic relationships. i145961266 |b1440003069801 |dbanf |g- |m231213 |h4 |x0 |t4 |i1 |j70 |k230331 |n10-01-2023 18:15 |o- |a305.409 HOO