If you're shy about receiving, you can try different ways to get comfortable, like turning the lights off. My partner and I use Pillo every time we're at my place. It's just as mind-blowing an addition to bedroom activities as a sex toy, in my opinion, and there's no motor to be found. The good news is, there's no one way you "should" go down on someone — but there are important steps. Three sex experts laid out how to best perform cunnilingus, from communication to foreplay. Let's talk about oral sex, baby Pom takes 2 hours to reach a full charge. Once fully charged, Pom lasts 1 hour on the highest setting. How do I charge my EVA 2?

Though you can use it to nap according to Dame, Pillo doesn't feel like a moldable down pillow. It's firmer and actually made of the same material as the Nugget: polyurethane foam. Further, it's slanted like a ramp. It's 18 inches wide, 15 inches long, and 7 inches at its tallest height. My partner and I can lie on the widest part of Pillo no problem.You can use typical sleep pillows, but you might find better support with firmer material and a different shape. This is partially why the children's couch Nugget became an online craze for "after dark" use; not only is the material more supportive, but they come in innovative designs perfect for getting it on.

Always ask before adding anything new in, like a finger or a toy, but don't change too much at once either. Make one change at a time and see how your partner reacts, said Mintz. King explained how sex pillows can help with a variety of positions, including missionary, from behind, and rider-on-top. During the former two, the pillow props up the receiving partner's hips and pelvis to more easily achieve deep penetration. For the latter, a pillow can help the rider bounce more comfortably. Sexpert Kenneth Play told Men's Health to start with the flat of your tongue, as it covers more surface area. If they're into receiving pleasure right on their clit, though, they may love when you use the tip of your tongue. Another downside is that Pillo only comes in one color, indigo. It happens to clash with just about everything in my cream and mauve decor. While Dame touts Pillo as a "master of disguise" that "blends right into your bedroom," I don't find that to be the case for me. That's not a total loss — I'll live, and continue to use Pillo as it's so much fun — but I'll be holding out for more neutral colors. Receiving oral can be vulnerable for these reasons or others — say, previous bad experiences. Mintz, who has a PhD in psychology, encourages people to have honest conversations about these fears and worries.

Great sex is all about hitting the right angles, but finding them can take some experimentation. That’s why a sex pillow is game-changing: These cushions are designed to support and direct the body, opening you up to a wider range of feel-good positions. We spoke to experts to figure out how to shop for sex pillows—and which ones will set you up for success. What should you consider when shopping for a sex pillow? Unlike the Nugget, there are options out there made specifically for sex. For a sleek yet sturdy option, I tried out Pillo by Dame, a sex toy brand expanding into other sensual products. Pillo is soft yet firm and built to support you and your partner in different angles. Consider whether using protection is best for you. STIs can be transmitted through oral sex, so you're not in the clear just because penetration isn't involved. If you and your partner already share bodily fluids (are "fluid bonded") and don't use protection, then you can skip it.

Many people with vulvas worry about their looks, smell, taste, or that they take too long to orgasm, said Dr. Laurie Mintz , PhD, sexpert at sex toy brand LELO , and author of Becoming Cliterate and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex. In terms of the former three, Mintz attributes that to false perceptions by the media and corporations attempting to sell products that make the vagina smell like flowers. (Vagina smells like vagina, okay?)Beyond those small snags, Pillo is about as perfect as a sex pillow could be in my opinion. It's the right size for both usage and storage on my bed, and it's versatile no matter what kind of sex you have.Plus, it's in the normal price range for quality sex pillows. A Mashable Choice Award is a badge of honor, reserved for the absolute best stuff we’ve tested and loved.

Finally, I've also found that the Pillo cover tends to catch stray hairs and needs lint-rolling in between washes and uses. This isn't a big deal and only takes a few seconds, but it's something I need to remember before a session with my partner. It's probably due to the nature of cotton, as I have cotton clothes that need lint-rolling as well. Just as you communicate before and after sex, you can during sex as well. You can certainly use your words, but Reed also suggests non-verbal cues for liking or not liking something. As an example, she said: "A double tap means it isn’t pleasurable, move on. A squeeze means it is good." If not, though — or say the receiver is on their period but still wants some oral — there are several options: dental dams, finger condoms, or latex underwear Lorals. You can sext or talk in-person. Having a post-coital talk may be easier to muse over what you want to try next time, Reed said. If you're receiving, ask what they like or say what you'd like to do with them. Cunnilingus can be daunting for beginners, said Dr. Chelsie Reed, author of Sexpert: Desire, Passion, Sensations, Intimacy, and Orgasm to Indulge in Your Best Sex Life, as it's not usually taught but is a matter of trial and error . Reed, who has a PhD in psychology, research and evaluation, said we can do better than that.

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Pillo is also immensely helpful for tribbing, the sexual act of rubbing vulvas together or rubbing the vulva on another body part, like a thigh. We've used it for a missionary-style position, and also for a scissoring-style tribbing (arranging ourselves like, well, colliding scissors). There are also pillows shaped like ramps (which you can drape your body across), mounts (which you can hump and grind), cylinders, domes, and wedge-ramp combinations. Almost all are designed with removable covers you can throw in the wash, and some have loops that secure handcuffs and built-in holders for sex toys. Notably, any of these pillows is excellent for both partner and solo play. They expand your “depth-of-penetration options, allowing different angles of reach, so you don’t have to sit up to switch between vibrator modes,” Dr. Queen says. The best sex pillows