If you’re looking for an explosive orgasm, the squatting position is the one to try. Squatting makes it easier for you to locate your G-spot, which is about 2 to 3 inches inside your vaginal canal. Maybe it's just me, but it seems like such a private, intimate, personal thing. When I see people on the street, or on the bus, or wherever, with those little white ear plugs... blissing out in their own little worlds... it makes me a bit uncomfortable. It reminds me of my highschool graduation night party, which was out in a big field somewhere. As I made my way from Point A to Point B in the latenight dark... I tripped on something. And it was a boy I'd never seen before... masturbating. After a few minutes more Steve asked Mark, “What do you do for a living and by the way what is your name?” If you're reluctant to watch porn but the idea of erotic imagery turns you on, make your own. Simply balance your smart phone on a stable surface and take photos of yourself. Try focusing on your body, your breasts and your vagina and see how it looks. You could even video your fingers sliding in and out of your vagina or film yourself rubbing your clitoris. Watching yourself can be incredibly erotic and empowering too! But keep your footage safe or consider deleting it afterwards. 23. Arouse your mind

It just so happened that both Steve and Mark were planning to go to the same bar on the same night. You want to get lost in the music. You want to let it take you over. You want to get to that dreamy place where you almost leave your body.

Massage can be incredibly relaxing and learning how to rub yourself can add to your masturbatory pleasure. 'Try marking your personal pleasure points with body oil or lotion, creating a map for you to explore,' says Sabat. 'Experimenting with different levels of pressure and kinds of caress can be tantalising! This practice will not only help to turn you on, but assist you in understanding what you do and don’t like. It’s truly the perfect blend of self-pleasure and self-care to spoil yourself with at the end of a long day.' We produce lubricant naturally when we become aroused, so if you feel slippery and wet this is perfectly normal. However if you feel a bit nervous it may help to add some lubrication to get things going. 'Gently spread your labia and use a spot of lube. There are very nice modern ones that increase the sensuousness of the occasion – such as Liquid Silk. But if you don't have any lubrication, saliva also works,' says Webber. 8. Find your pelvic floor muscles Aside from the fact that it feels good, from stress reduction to improved sleep and even help with menstrual cramps, masturbation comes with a number of health benefits. Research has also found that masturbation can protect against cervical infections, as orgasms regularly flex the cervix.

Who says anal orgasms are only for people with penises? You can still get off through anal play by indirectly stimulating the G-spot through the wall shared between the rectum and vagina. Right," said the psychologist. "Here's what I want you to do. Are you okay financially? Do you have a partner? Does your partner work? Instead of doing the regular up and down thrusting, find different ways of putting your hands to good use. Some of them are: Hearst UK is the trading name of the National Magazine Company Ltd, 30 Panton Street, Leicester Square, London, SW1Y 4AJ. Registered in England. All Rights Reserved. The first step to sexual gratification? Stop thinking about masturbation as a dirty little secret. 'It’s a perfectly healthy thing to do, with a myriad of health benefits,' says sex therapist Mia Sabat. 'By framing masturbation as part of your self-care routine, instead of something to feel embarrassed about, you can explore your body with comfort and confidence.' 2. Relax and caress yourselfListening to sexy sounds can be just as — if not more — arousing as reading erotica or watching porn. Audio lets your imagination run wild as you lose yourself in the details of the story. Steve responded with, “Mary, I am really just enjoying the conversation right now. I’m not a player. I haven’t been dating for a very long time and when I used to date I really liked to get to know someone before we fooled around sexually. I assure you, I will remain a perfect gentleman.” Ah yes, the perfect opportunity to , uh, juggle your fruit Credit: Getty Images / fluxfactory 4. While your roommates are home Nipples are a very sensitive area of the body, and one of the key erogenous zones. When masturbating, experiment with your breasts and nipples to find out how (and if!) you like them to be touched. 'Relax, take your time and enjoy exploring this often under-appreciated part of your body,' says Sabat. 'In time, you may even find that you can reach orgasm through nipple play alone.' I usually masturbate once a day. I have to have visuals. It’s hard for me to just imagine stuff. I’m not embarrassed that I masturbate; if we’re close enough and you ask me, I won’t deny it at all. Or sometimes when I’m texting my friends in the group chat I’ll be like, “brb gonna go mb.” It’s completely normal. I used to be really ashamed about it, though.” —Fran, 22

The glans of the clitoris is about the size of a pearl/pea, but the structure itself is much more complex and extensive. As part of your preparation, show your partner the sex toys you use beforehand - especially if they haven’t seen them before. This can be a nice bit of foreplay to your shared masturbation experience - a bit of ‘show and tell’ describing what you do with the toy, how you use it and how it feels for your body! I usually start off reading sexy stories, hump my pillow, and then start to use my hand. I’ve never talked to anyone about masturbating because I feel like I’d get judged for doing it. But the older I get and the more I hear about women masturbating, the better I feel about it. I don’t think of masturbating as a bad thing anymore.” —Ada, 18 Hogarth H, et al. (2009). Masturbation among young women and association with sexual health: An exploratory study.

For advice on getting started, try our masturbation tips for women and people with vaginas. But anyone can read them to gain a greater understanding of female sexuality. And if it turns you on in the process, bonus! Yes, you read that right. Taking things further, try and find your prostate and stimulate it slowly. Start by massaging your prostate by inserting a clean, lubed-up finger in your rectum. If you are not comfortable using your finger, start slow and understand how it makes you feel. Once you begin enjoying the anal stimulation, it will certainly take your orgasm game to the next level. I do feel that our male fantasies about the ideal woman affects our approach to how we cross-dress. We may be men dressing up as women but for the majority of us we are most definitely heterosexual men; as is fairly accepted now most transvestites are not homosexual. That is not a definitive statement as there can be other factors behind ones desire to dress and look female. In my case I am an heterosexual male but I do have a definite transsexual aspect to me but not strong enough to dominate. I will admit I enjoy the dressing up and the illusion and the knowledge I am really a man. The transsexual side I feel puts in me in the ball park so to speak of why I desire to spend time as a woman now and again. Try sitting in a circle so you can witness and be witnessed. Being scattered randomly around a room is also good if some people are a bit more shy than others. ❤️ For naked FaceTime Start to move your fingers or toy in a circular, in-and-out, stroking, or combination of motions. It’s best to use a “come hither” motion to stimulate your G-spot.