Ladder of Years

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Anne Tyler was very clever: ironically, Delia left her unhappy family home behind, only to find herself living in the town her ancestors originally came from! Delia was able to observe other relationships in the new town that had adopted her: everyone had their own set of burdens to carry. Sam, Joel and Nat all shared the same unconscious flaw: they were intolerant of their offspring's every action, constantly criticized and corrected them, and did their unwitting best to alienate their children's affections. I have read every novel by Anne Tyler, and just re-read this one on my Kindle. It is my favorite. So poignant, funny, and real. Tyler's characters are always people you know and recognize. But Delia, the main character, is possibly her most fully formed and relatable ever. I love Delia--BECAUSE of her flaws, not in spite of them. This is a coming-of-age book...about a middle-aged woman. It's also a story about the intricate relationships among women. The women in this book overlap--each "taking over" something from another. If it hadn't been called "Ladder of Years," it could very well have been called "The Interwoven Lives of Women," (or something more creative).

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move a muscle. She felt they were performing a dance together, something courtly and elaborate and dignified." It is this dance, subtle, passionate and oddly passive, that Anne Tyler creates with such ease and grace. AT: I’m honored. I’d like nothing better than for readers to believe they’re actually living in my characters’ world, just as I feel I’m living in it while I’m writing about it. AT: I had a very hard time justifying, to myself and to my readers, a mother’s walking out on her children. I tried to make it less appalling by giving her children who were almost grown, but it was still difficult.This is rich material here, a story filled with twists and turns that could make your book club of 40+ women argue with delight. I often find myself empathising with characters in novels, but it is rare that I can so completely identify with one in the same way as I did with Delia Grinstead in Anne Tyler's Ladder Of Years. Having pulled a similar stunt myself, albeit as a teenager, I was amazed at Tyler's apparently uncanny knowledge of how I felt at the time. " How do I get out of this then?" I suppose it must not be such an unusual experience after all. Delia's reinvention of herself from Dee - fragile put-upon and overlooked wife, mother and daughter - to Miss Grinstead - efficient secretary and woman in her own right - is such a sensitively drawn transformation that I was hooked on every word of her tale. I loved both her emotional journey and also the detailed description of her actual journey from Baltimore to Bay Borough, the ideal anonymous small town on arrival and, of course, soon discovered to be anything but. At the end of the novel, Delia concludes that "the people she had left behind had actually traveled further, in some ways." What does she mean? But when that family sees you only as an unpaid housekeeper and constantly belittle you and scorn your suggestions and opinions, you either bonelessly disappear into your marginal role in their life, or you strike out and make a better life for yourself.

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As a writer, I don't have a problem with almost any theme, because for me, it's how the story is told. Not everyone is going to like every book, no matter how well written, no matter how much mass appeal. Such is virtually impossible. Delia is herself unprepared for change, yet it waits for her around every corner. Her response is to turn and simply walk away. On her yearly holiday at the beach with her husband and children, her sister Eliza (a committed aromatherapist in a pith helmet) AT: I was looking for a profession with some power, since Delia’s sheltered life–from father’s hands to husband’s, with no break–seemed to require that. Micah Mortimer is a creature of habit. A self-employed tech expert, superintendent of his Baltimore apartment building, cautious to a fault behind the steering wheel, he seems content leading a steady, circumscribed life.

Logically, she should have found that a comfort. (She used to be afraid of dying while her children were so small.) But instead, she had suffered pangs of jealousy. Why was it Sam, for instance, that everybody turned to in times of crisis? He always got to be the reasonable one, the steady and reliable one; she was purely decorative. But how had that come about? Where had she been looking while that state of affairs developed? little town of Bay Borough, and it is she who tests the love of her family, she who waits for a declaration. But this consciousness of herself, of a body and a soul with outlines not defined by her pretty, pastel clothes, is not entirely new for Delia. There is a wonderful awareness in this book of how women, even little girls, self-consciously act out their

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For her walk," Ms. Tyler writes, "she wore her Miss Grinstead cardigan, which clung gently to her arms and made her feel like a cherished child." And that reassurance extends to readers, allowing us to enjoy the AT: Not really. Nat is only one member of the "surrogate family" she constructs for herself on her journey. Una decisione, casuale o meno, che molti vorrebbero prendere. E di cui si è occupata più volte sia la letteratura che il cinema (i primi due titoli che mi vengono in mente sono entrambi firmati da Michelangelo Antonioni, “L’avventura” e “Professione: reporter”).Delia (short for Cordelia) is the youngest of three sisters. At 40, she has long been married to a kindly doctor who still makes house calls. They live in the large old Baltimore house in which she grew up. Delia's father was also a doctor. When Anne Tyler has been around a long time and when her books first came out I read them religiously, but I finally lost interest after "Accidental Tourist." "Ladder of Years" reminded me of why. playful poke, seeing Delia's defection from life partly as farce. Cordelia Grinstead tests her family's love, wandering into the wilderness stripped of everything -- except a ruffled bathing suit. And then the family's In this story there’s something delicious about the human doormat striking a blow for emancipation, and pulling it off. How many of us relish the thought of starting over? What it is to re-invent yourself, and to break free from just doing what is expected. I guess that should mean I would cheer when she walks away, and I could have except for Carroll. I found it absolutely inexcusable that Delia could walk away from her fifteen-year-old son, and their encounter when he comes to see her is utterly heartbreaking, although she doesn't see it that way, she's too busy flitting around and letting everyone dominate her attention.

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AT: She was very hurt when he didn’t ask her, but I suspect that if he had, she’d have invented some quibble with his tone, his wording–some flaw that would allow her to say no and go on with her sojourn until the moment she was ready to return. The raves on this book are baffling. It pissed me off and I can't wait to start reading another book so as to clear out its twisted logic and supposed meanings. (I wonder about my previous liking of her!) Perhaps I should write another review in 30 years when I am her age, to see if my perceptions have changed. AT: I was very fond of Delia and I wanted readers to be fond of her too. One of the qualities I hoped they would find endearing was her graceful and intuitive touch with both cats and children.Ms. Tyler's style of small, perfect observation mirrors Delia's attentiveness to detail, which only very gradually allows her to see what's really around her. But for Delia, and for us, the discreet observations are almost physically satisfying. Q: What do you think of one reviewer’s comment that you "involve readers so deeply that they want to fight with the characters" in this novel? Delia wondered if Sam knew that Carroll was scheduled for tennis lessons the middle two weeks in July. You couldn't depend on Carroll to remember on his own. And did anyone recall that this was dentist month? Well, probably Eliza did. Without Eliza, Delia could never left her family so easily. If Ladder of Years isn't already one of my favorite novels, The Last Picture Show and The Remains of the Day can see it in their rearview mirrors. Taken together, each novel documents the human experience at critical points, ages 18, 45 and 65, perhaps. Anne Tyler's compulsively absorbing comic drama published in 1995 fulfills the middle chapter. Membership in that age demographic is not required to become enraptured with Tyler's effortless wit, keen naturalism or existential questioning, nor is it needed to get caught up her protagonist's decision to walk away from life as she knows it and start fresh. Delia is, at times, worthy of the reader's sympathy and interest, and, at other times, she's a selfish brat. The ending leaves one wanting SO much more.